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Equipped With Agency

The plan is fine. Tuesday afternoon is the problem.

Practical tools for the days between appointments — a book, a workbook, and a peer-facilitated skills series.

You are most likely here looking for something to do when it is bad. Not a plan — you probably have one of those. A plan gets made on a good day, in a room where you are calm and supported and thinking clearly. None of those three things is true on a Tuesday afternoon. What is here was written from the inside: four years in the provincial health, rehabilitation and compensation systems as a claimant. A workplace injury, chronic pain, three surgeries, and the identity loss that comes with the end of a trade. Not a clinician, and nothing here is treatment.

What is hardest right now?

Pick the closest one. Each goes to a single tool you can run in under three minutes — free, no sign-up, nothing collected.

I cannot settle. Everything is too loud.

Start with the Now Protocol — three things seen, two felt, one heard, and three slow exhales. It takes under two minutes and it is the tool every other one assumes.

Run it — The Now Protocol →

My body is doing things I did not ask it to.

The Body Reset. Your body is giving you information, not a verdict, and there is a sequence for turning the volume down.

Run it — The Body Reset →

I cannot stop the thought.

The Thought Reset. A thought is information, not a command — and suppression makes it louder, which is why this works differently than you have been told.

Run it — The Thought Reset →

The same thing keeps happening.

The Circle. Patterns are not character flaws; they are the brain running the fastest route to a known outcome. Find the earliest signal and change one step.

Run it — The Circle Protocol →

I cannot start the thing I have to do.

The Task Activation Protocol. You do not have to feel ready. Motivation comes after you start, not before. Make the task smaller. Move one thing out of the way. Set a timer for ten minutes.

Run it — The Task Activation Protocol →

My reaction is bigger than the thing that caused it.

The Line. A small thing happens and the feeling is huge. That gap is the signal. It usually means the past has arrived. This one sorts then from now.

Run it — The Line Protocol →

I am carrying somebody else through something.

Start where the series ends up: your own regulation is the intervention. A calm helper beats a technically correct script delivered badly.

Run it — The Now Protocol →

When one tool is not enough

Still free, still nothing collected. Each of these is a step up in commitment, not a step up in price.

Everything, free to take

Every worksheet, handout, facilitator guide, deck, card and recording this series is made of, in one list. No account, no email address, nothing to buy.

All the downloads →

All the tools

Every protocol the series teaches, filtered by what is happening. Run one in under three minutes.

Open the tools →

The worksheets

55 pages from the workbook. Read them, print them, or type into them and keep the file yourself.

Open the worksheets →

The session handouts

17 handouts, one per session — the same tools with the reasoning behind them, readable on a phone.

Open the handouts →

Watch the sessions

17 recorded sessions you can watch in order, or one at a time, with the handout for each beside it.

Play the first one →

Which of these is you?

What it is all built on

One framework for noticing what is happening and taking the next small step. Everything here is built on it.

THE UNIVERSAL COPING LOOP One loop. Seven stages. Run it whenever you are overwhelmed. 1 NOTICE 2 NAME 3 GROUND 4 NARROW 5 ACT 6 CONNECT 7 RECOVER SELF-REWARD LOOP Name it. Acknowledge the difficulty. Credit the effort. Affirm forward. 1 NOTICE Something has shifted — a body signal, an emotion, a change. 2 NAME Put it into words. “I notice…” or “This is…” 3 GROUND Return to the body. Feet on floor. One slow exhale. 4 NARROW Shrink it to one step. Not the whole thing — the next thing. 5 ACT Take the one step. Do it now. 6 CONNECT Reach out. You regulate faster when not alone. 7 RECOVER Close the loop. Credit the effort. Affirm forward.
The Universal Coping Loop: a seven-stage ring — Notice, Name, Ground, Narrow, Act, Connect, Recover — with the Self-Reward Loop at the centre and a legend.

Walk the seven stages — what each one is, and what to run at it.

There is also a free email course, Run the Loop — seven short emails, one per stage of the loop.

And if the person having the hard time is your child, co-regulation is the words to use, by age, and the one thing that has to happen first.

If you want to know who made this and what it is built on, that is about.