Session 14 of the series. The questions come from the session's own material — every answer below is a span of it, word for word, rather than somebody's summary.
The questions 4 questions
Answer in your own words, out loud or on paper. Nothing is scored, nothing is marked, and nothing is stored — this is for noticing what you have, not for anybody to grade.
How many things do you control in any conflict, and which one is definitely not on the list?
What the material says
you control seven things in any conflict. None of them is the other person.
Where this comes from — The Dichotomy of Control, in conflict
There is a timing rule for responding in anger. What is it?
What the material says
Never respond in the first ninety seconds of anger.
What is an unresolved conflict doing to the body while it stays unresolved?
Somebody is working through a rupture and you say "You need to forgive and forget." What have you imposed?
The material itself
Conflict and Repair Scenarios — the handout
The full written session: what the tool is, why it works, when to use it, and what never to say.
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