Use it when Early in a supporting relationship, before it settles into a shape.
It is done when You have named what you can offer, what is off limits, and what they actually want.
Watch it
The same teaching, narrated — what the tool is, why it works, how to run it, and what usually goes wrong.
The page
Print this, or copy the prompts onto paper. A page you half-filled counts as filled.
- Who this is with
- What you can offer — specific, with honest limits
- What is off limits — topics, times, ways of contacting you. You do not owe a reason
- What they said they want from you. Ask; do not assume
- What they would rather you did not do
- What I get from this relationship — name it plainly; one-way support builds a debt
- How we will revisit this, and the words I will use if it stops working
Check what stayed 2 questions
Answer in your own words, out loud or on paper. Nothing is scored, nothing is marked, and nothing is stored — this is for noticing what you have, not for anybody to grade.
WB 2.10 — Co-Created Boundaries. When do you build this page, and when do you use it?
What the material says
Complete while you are both regulated, before it is needed. If the relationship already feels lopsided, that is the signal to use it now.
WB 2.10 — Co-Created Boundaries. What does finished look like on this page?
What the material says
You have filled both sides — yours and theirs — and agreed how the arrangement gets reviewed.
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