2.12b — Helper Self-Assessment & Script

Use it when On a calm day, before you are in the middle of helping.

It is done when You have named your habit, your opening line, and what you will not say.

Watch it

The same teaching, narrated — what the tool is, why it works, how to run it, and what usually goes wrong.

Where it stopsWatching your own state during a conversation can tip into monitoring yourself instead of attending to the other person, which makes you worse at both. If you notice that, regulate before you arrive rather than during, and let the conversation be the conversation.

The page

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What you usually do when somebody is struggling
What you will practise instead
Who you are supporting, and the state they are usually in
Your opening line, and something you can do together
What you will not say — and when you will check in again

Check what stayed 2 questions

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WB 2.12b — Helper Self-Assessment & Script. When do you build this page, and when do you use it?
What the material says
Complete while calm. Build the script for one real person you support.
Where this comes from — Use it when
WB 2.12b — Helper Self-Assessment & Script. What does finished look like on this page?
What the material says
You have named your default helping pattern, its replacement, and a ready opening line for one person.
Where this comes from — It is done when

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