Session 11 of the series. The questions come from the session's own material — every answer below is a span of it, word for word, rather than somebody's summary.
The questions 4 questions
Answer in your own words, out loud or on paper. Nothing is scored, nothing is marked, and nothing is stored — this is for noticing what you have, not for anybody to grade.
An If-Then plan is not an attempt to have more willpower in the moment. What is it arranging?
What the material says
You are not trying to be stronger in the moment. You are arranging not to have to be.
Where did the twenty-one-day habit figure come from, and where did it not come from?
What the material says
figure did not come from habit research It came from Dr Maxwell Maltz's 1960 observations of surgical patients adjusting to physical changes
You miss a day of a new habit. Has the process reset, and what is the thing that actually disrupts it?
What the material says
A single missed day does not reset the process.
Where this comes from — Two findings that change how you apply it
Building a trigger map with a child could look like labelling them. What is the distinction the handout draws?
What the material says
A label is something you are; a map is something you have.
The material itself
Trigger Maps — the handout
The full written session: what the tool is, why it works, when to use it, and what never to say.
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