Use it when Before the conversation, while you are settled.
It is done when You have written your one statement and your pause line.
Watch it
The same teaching, narrated — what the tool is, why it works, how to run it, and what usually goes wrong.
The page
Print this, or copy the prompts onto paper. A page you half-filled counts as filled.
- How you will get settled first
- The specific issue — what happened, not the whole history
- “When ___, I felt ___”, and what you need
- The part of their side that is true
- What you will say if it gets too much: “I need ten minutes. I will come back.”
Check what stayed 2 questions
Answer in your own words, out loud or on paper. Nothing is scored, nothing is marked, and nothing is stored — this is for noticing what you have, not for anybody to grade.
WB 2.9b — Conflict Protocol. When do you build this page, and when do you use it?
What the material says
Prepare while calm and regulated. If you notice flooding during the conversation, use the pause line and return.
WB 2.9b — Conflict Protocol. What does finished look like on this page?
What the material says
You have a first-person statement ready, and afterward have reviewed what you owned and what to do next time.
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