The Nexus and Repair Protocol

The steps

1. Nexus: stabilise the body first.
2. Make it smaller. Stay connected.
3. Use simple language. Delay meaning-making. Close the Loop.
4. Repair: name what happened. Own your part.
5. Name the impact. Commit to change.
6. Ask what is needed. Reconnect.

Where it comes from

• Session 8 — the full handoutWhat it is for, when it goes wrong, and what to say
• WB 1.8 — The Nexus (p.12)The workbook page that practises it
• Chapters 8 and 9.In the book

Prefer it one step at a time? The same protocol as a guided runner in the app, which also keeps a private record if you want one.

This is one of the tools a seventeen-session series teaches, ninety minutes at a time, in a room of six to twelve people. It is peer-facilitated and free to host.

Check what stayed 3 questions

Answer in your own words, out loud or on paper. Nothing is scored, nothing is marked, and nothing is stored — this is for noticing what you have, not for anybody to grade.

1. In the Nexus half, what comes before anything else?

   What the material says

   Nexus: stabilise the body first.

2. In the Repair half, what are the first two moves, in order?

   What the material says

   Repair: name what happened. Own your part.

3. What is the anchor phrase, and what does it say repair is part of?

   What the material says

   This is important. We go slowly. Repair is part of strength.